What does success have to do with being a compassionate person? The answer is a lot. When you think of someone who is compassionate, do you associate it with someone who has a martyr/victim personality? Most folks associate compassionate people as soft or weak.
However, compassionate people have an amazing superpower – they know how to use compassion as a strength and not a weakness.
Here are a few habits of highly compassionate people.
They do not Take Things Personally
People who emulate compassion both to themselves and for others, have learned the art of not taking things personally. They know when a mistake happens, that is simply a fact – a mistake happened. They do not focus on how much of a failure they are, how stupid they feel. They simply focus on the problem and do not internalize it as being about themselves. This allows them to take the next step.
The Move Forward Quickly and Rebound
Since compassionate people practice self-compassion as well as compassion for others, they can move forward quickly. They do not make the problem, mistake, or situation about them.
There is less ruminating, worrying, and talking about problems. There is more of a focus on moving forward and coming up with creative solutions.
They Come up with Solutions to Problems
Rather than ruminating, compassionate people come up with creative solutions to difficult problems. Compassionate people can feel into what it is like for someone else to experience pain, almost as if they were the ones experiencing it. This offers them an amazing vantage point to problem solving.
A compassionate person can see and feel into others pain points. This offers them an advantage in helping others solve those problems. This one quality has many benefits:
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In relationships, compassionate people can empathize with others and are better able to problem solve.
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In business, compassionate people can feel their client’s pain points, communicate with empathy, and help them find creative solutions.
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Socially, compassionate people invite others to be vulnerable due to their trustworthy and empathic qualities.
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Compassionate people have a superpower in being able to listen effectively to what people are saying and even what they are holding back on, as well.
Compassionate people have an uncanny sense about other people. This enables them to feel, see, and hear what others are experiencing. Compassion is an attractive quality. Compassionate people can draw near to them people who need their gifts, skills, and talents. This gives them an opportunity to not only succeed, but to excel in personal relationships as well as in business settings.
The personality trait of being compassionate is not one of weakness. It is one of personal strength. Maintaining a balance between compassion and having strong boundaries is a winning combination.
Where in your life can you find ways to be more compassionate to yourself? Where in your life can you find ways to be more compassionate to others?
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Train Yourself to be More Compassionate
Have you ever met someone with so much compassion and wondered how you could be more like that? If so, you are not alone. Some people are born with the capacity of being compassionate not only to humans, but to pets, wildlife, and even nature. While compassion is a trait that is both biological and learned from our environment in childhood, there are ways to train yourself to be more compassionate if you wish.
Compassion is a Practice
If being compassionate is a way of being which is unfamiliar to you, it will take some practice. Just as any other new habit you wish to form, it will begin as unfamiliar until you make it more familiar. The brain is a creature of habit and gravitates to what is familiar – whether that is a positive trait or a negative habit.
Training your brain to be more compassionate is a practice like any new habit you wish to create. Compassion begins with self-compassion. Set an intention to be more self-compassionate and you will be amazed at how much your everyday, ordinary, life improves. Taking on self-compassion lightens the load, makes each day a little brighter, and softens the ups and downs of life.
Here are some ways to practice self-compassion:
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Talk back to that negative voice in your head; when you have a thought, which is negative about yourself, challenge it.
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Counteract every negative thought with a positive one. For example, if you find yourself being hard on yourself, remind yourself how you have been through difficulties before and have come out simply fine.
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Compliment yourself on a job well done and let go of guilt for feeling proud and accomplished.
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Give yourself a break every now and again; you do not always have to aim for perfection. Doing your best is what counts.
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Treat yourself to something nice; do something nice for yourself.
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Speak to yourself and treat yourself like you would your best friend
Take the time to practice self-compassion. Once your cup is overflowing, you now have so much more to give. Self-compassion is not selfish, it is necessary so you can give back to others.
Compassion to Others
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Take time to notice, and even journal, throughout the day each time someone is compassionate to you. Take notes and learn how you can apply those same principles to other people.
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Join an accountability group to create the new habit of being compassionate to self and others
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Take time throughout your busy day and take a pause – ask yourself, where and how can I show compassion in this situation.
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Instead of reacting to someone else’s negative mood, take a moment to ask them if they are okay. Chances are their negative mindset is really a cry for help, for someone to listen or for someone to simply ask!
Compassion as a Habit
Being aware of where, how, and when you can apply compassion to both self and others is the perfect way to now create compassion as a habit.
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Practice self-compassion
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Ask where, how, and when you can offer compassion to others
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Notice compassion
Take on these practices and before you know it, compassion will become a natural part of your life.
The Law of Attraction & Manifestation Can Never Work if You “IGNORE” This 1 SIMPLE STEP…